We all need human connection to survive and if we don’t get it we will become comfortable being alone. Many find that as a good thing but if you really think about it you can develop mental illnesses without even noticing and in the future you won’t feel comfortable talking to people about it because you perceive it as normal. Teens especially need contact because we are about dive into adulthood and we have to cherish the left over time we have as teens.
Although I am currently not dating anyone at the moment, I can still experience what it must be like to not be able to physically be with your lover. The stress and loneliness while being isolated must be painful to begin with and to not be able to see their partner must have increased the amount of anxiety. Yet, I can’t say the same for my friends because even though social distancing has been placed, they will still go out of their way to visit their boyfriends. Now, If I was a parent, it will be extremely difficult for me to allow my child outside because of the pandemic.
I’m not in a relationship and neither are my two closest friends, It’s been hard enough to not see them because I before I used to see them all the time. Through this quarantine, I’ve found myself less interested in guys. Like I’ll find some dude attractive or whatever but I won’t go out of my way to speak to anyone or even think about relationships. I just miss my friends, and I wish I could have fun with them and mess around, the longer this quarantine goes the less interested I get. I think part of it is because I can’t go out and see people or talk to people as much as I could before without really getting bored, so all I do is read these terrible things or see people saying stupid things and it makes me not want to talk to anyone.
Navigating a new normal
Older generations have always criticized teenager’s attachments to their devices, but now they have become an even more integral part in our lives- a life line to our sanity of sorts. As we endure this pandemic and seek to upkeep our social habits and our emotional needs, our screen times are through the roof. It’s not satisfying to me, nor is it for my boyfriend or friends. So now, as we have all been at home for 2 months, I look forward to going on walks. I beg my parents and he begs his and we are fortunate enough to be able to see each other, and in such a beautiful environment at that. Stealing away for hikes seems to me as the least risk involved interaction, and for us touch deprived teenagers, necessary to remain content. We long for sitting in fast food joints and going over to each others houses, but we thrive in the lack of pressure to socialize now. I adore seeing a few friends at a time promoting a more intimate and relaxed atmosphere. Essentially surviving a long distance relationship is a testament to my friendships and my relationship, and it just makes me appreciate and love them all the more. I cannot wait to embrace them all when this nightmare is over, and never again take a night out for granted.
Advice for couples
To teenage couples, I would say to think of the situation the world is going through at the moment: we are in a global pandemic. It may be very difficult to maintain distance from significant others, but it is important to understand that we are doing this to keep each other safe. By seeing each other, you are putting him/her, as well as your family at risk. Many people are losing their loved ones to this virus, and the best thing you can do is to prevent it by social distancing. To the families, please understand that in our generation, social interaction is a crucial part to our lives. At school, we are taught to engage in discussions and increase participation and collaboration. We have been encouraged to do so since our first step into school. It is a very difficult time right now, but the most important thing is to be safe, but also understand how it has affected different people.
I believe that if your teenager is in love and they want to see each other they should see each other maybe not every day but once a week. If you still want social distancing then back 2 cars up and sit on the back end and talk. I have never had a special other so I do not know everything that may feel but allow some sort of in-person connection would greatly help them.
If I was a Parent I would let them go see them but set a time of 2 to 3 hours and supervise from a distance and I know that may sound controlling but to keep both of the teenagers safe is to limit some of their time. But I would not say no after how long it has been for them and how much they may be hurting.